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Do's and Don'ts of getting the girl

Ever meet a girl you really liked but didn’t know how to ask her out on or even if you managed to ask her out didn’t know what to do or say on this date? Say no more, we’ve got you covered!

Going on dates or asking a girl out is sometimes well, usually awkward.  But here are some tips to help you get that date and give her a reason to want a second one.

Asking Her Out

Confidence is key

When asking a girl out on a date, it is important to ooze confidence. Being confident is really a way of letting her know you know what you want, and that’s her. It gives her the perception that you are assertive and women like assertive men.

  • Being confident in such situations can prove to be difficult at times. Confidence can sometimes boost with a different look or appearance. So if you need to throw on some nice looking shoes to put a little kick in your step, then what are you waiting for? But solid confidence comes from believing in your inner awesomeness (yes, we all have an inner awesomeness. Don’t doubt for a second that you are anything short of amazing).
  • Also, remember you want to ooze confidence not cockiness. Smooth and efficient like Christian Grey not lousy and a douche like Kanye West. That cocky attitude Kanye has may have worked on Kim but for the average girl it’s a major turn-off (also, don’t whip her, Christian Grey is not exactly a great role model when it comes to dating and relationships. You’ll thank me later.)

First Impression Counts

If you’re working on asking a girl out the impression she makes of you will most likely determine if she’s interested in you or not. You might be a beautiful clean-cut diamond deep inside but she’s not going to notice that if you’re covered in dirt, metaphorically speaking of course. Forming an impression involves a number of things but generally has to do with appearance. Dress sense, hygiene(smell), manner of approach, the way you carry yourself (confidence)are also factors that determine if she’ll look at you as her prince charming or a swamp frog.

 

Dress Sense

If you’re one of those guys who wear a pink blazer, orange trousers and green shoes and thinks he’s colour-blocking or somehow has a fantastic fashion sense, this is some tough love but please stop it. No girl wants to date a guy who looks like a character from “Dora the Explorer”. You don’t necessarily have to kill it in the fashion department all the time, but she wants to know that if you two are out on a date and mistakenly bump into one of her friends, her boyfriend being you won’t be the laughing stock of Saturday afternoon gossip with girls. Looking good is good business or in this case looking good is good for getting the girl.

  • A lot of guys usually slack off in the dressing department. Don’t do this. If the girl is putting effort in what she looks like then you need to do the same as well.
  • Your pants should be one place and one place only, your waist.
  • Always wear a belt guys. MAJOR KEY.

 

Hygiene

Though she may not mention it what you smell like is actually very important. Every girl wants to snuggle a guy who smells nice all the time. Smelling nice is combination of good hygiene and nice cologne. So bathe regularly, brush your teeth, wear deodorant and put on some nice smelling cologne. No girl wants to date a guy who smells like sweat half of the time.

  • Invest in nice cologne. When you smell good you’ve done half of the work of convincing her to date you already.
  • Mouth hygiene is just as important as important as smelling nice. Your 50 grand cologne won’t cover up the fish smell from what you had for lunch. Say no to bad breath and yes to tic-tacs!
  • And never forget, deodorant is your friend!

 

On The Date

You’ve finally gotten a date with her. So what do you say or do? This is your first date with her so you’ve got to knock it out the park. This stage is the stage where all females decide if they are going to have to break things off or if they are ready to go the distance. This should be the stage where you do the same too.

Money

Money is sometimes an awkward issue on dates. Society has made the guy out to be the ‘Maga’ and because of that some females tend to over-do things. They go out with the opposite sex and buy the most expensive things awaiting the supposed ‘Mugu’ to pay.  For that reason, don’t take her to anywhere you can’t afford in the unreasonable attempt to impress (unless you will wash plates tire. LMAO), but also avoid taking her to somewhere cheap.  There’s nothing wrong with impressing your date, but don’t go extreme trying to show off, if she really likes you, she’ll like you for you.  As a gentleman since you invited her out, you should offer to pay.  Don’t be stingy.  No girl wants to be affiliated with a guy who can’t spoil her at least every once in a while, if she wants something and it’s not crazy expensive, buy it for her silly. I ran a poll on twitter asking who pays on the first date. With 56 votes, 2% said the girl, 16% said both of them should while 43% said the guy. The remaining 39% clicked to see the results.

  • Even if you’re stinking rich don’t try too hard to impress her with money because you potentially run the risk of seeming proud or cocky. Just show her you can at least afford basic things, and let her know that their potential significant other can handle the bills.
  • Every relationship should start on the basis of communication, if you don’t have a lot instead of taking her out and creating an awkward scene at a restaurant, tell her before the date and come to an agreement to either split the bill or go to somewhere considerably cheaper. Whatever agreement you come to make sure it’s something that doesn’t end in you and your date sweeping the floors of KFC.

 

 

Be The Perfect Gentleman

Guys, listen up! If there’s anything you should hold with all seriousness from this article is that ladies like to be treated like Queens; nothing less. The more you show her some respect the more she falls for you. Open her doors, pull her chairs for her etcetera etcetera. Also don’t try too much too fast. If you guys end up somewhere like the cinema on your first date, don’t go trying to grope her boobs in the darkness or trying to kiss her if she doesn’t look interested. Intimacy comes with trust, and trust comes with time. Instead of being pervy, put your hormones on some ice and chill. If you keep trying to touch her inappropriately you’ll be sending all the wrong signals and sending her straight out the door.

 

Pay Attention

Listening to your date is so important. The first date is the stage where the both of you are exchanging large chunks of information about one another. And paying attention here is paramount. Remember that old bible verse from Matthew; out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh? Well it’s not just an old memory verse. There’s actually a lot of wisdom in it. If you’re attentive she’s probably dropping hints that she’s a psycho and if you’re wise you’ll get the hell out of there before she axes your head off.  On the other hand, you guys might be vibing and you are probably realizing how amazing this girl is.

  • You see how listening to your date can be beneficial? Don’t ruin your chance of being with a terrific girl by ignoring her. Your emails will still be in your mailbox after the date!
  • Don’t be obnoxious and spend the entire time talking about yourself, otherwise you’ll be kissing yourself goodnight.
  • Be actively engaged in the conversation.
  • Eye contact is also important.

I asked a couple girls the following questions:

  • When a guy asks you out what’s one thing that would make you say yes?
  • Let’s say you say you eventually say yes what’s one really important thing he has to do on the date that seals the deal?

Here were their responses

            “When a guy asks you out what’s one thing that would make you say yes?”

  1. I need to like him as much as he likes me.
  2. He needs to be well dressed.
  3. I have to have been talking to him for a long time and feel comfortable with him.
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           “Let’s say you say you eventually say yes what’s one really important thing he has to do on the date that seals the deal?”

  1. He has to make me laugh and get my jokes
  2. From what he says on the date I can tell if he’s ambitious or not and if he isn’t showing signs of future goals then we can’t be an item.
  3. He has to respect me.

 

The truth is there’s no wrong or right way to get the girl of your dreams.  Something very important to remember is that every girl is different and wants different things. Some girls like an extravagant dresser some don’t.  Some want a funny guy, while some don’t but, always make it a priority to find a girl who likes you for you. Never change your unique version of awesome for anyone!

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The History of Halloween

In recent times Nigerians have progressed towards celebrating American Holidays, more often than not most people don’t know the history of these holidays so here’s a brief history of Halloween.

Straddling the line between fall and winter, plenty and paucity, life and death, Halloween is a time of celebration and superstition. It is thought to have originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off roaming ghosts. In the eighth century, Pope Gregory III designated November 1 as a time to honor all saints and martyrs; the holiday, All Saints’ Day, incorporated some of the traditions of Samhain. The evening before was known as All Hallows’ Eve and later Halloween. Over time, Halloween evolved into a secular, community-based event characterized by child-friendly activities such as trick-or-treating. In a number of countries around the world, as the days grow shorter and the nights get colder, people continue to usher in the winter season with gatherings, costumes and sweet treats.

The American Halloween tradition of “trick-or-treating” probably dates back to the early All Souls’ Day parades in England. During the festivities, poor citizens would beg for food and families would give them pastries called “soul cakes” in return for their promise to pray for the family’s dead relatives. The distribution of soul cakes was encouraged by the church as a way to replace the ancient practice of leaving food and wine for roaming spirits. The practice, which was referred to as “going a-souling” was eventually taken up by children who would visit the houses in their neighbourhood and be given ale, food, and money.

The tradition of dressing in costume for Halloween has both European and Celtic roots. Hundreds of years ago, winter was an uncertain and frightening time. Food supplies often ran low and, for the many people afraid of the dark, the short days of winter were full of constant worry. On Halloween, when it was believed that ghosts came back to the earthly world, people thought that they would encounter ghosts if they left their homes. To avoid being recognized by these ghosts, people would wear masks when they left their homes after dark so that the ghosts would mistake them for fellow spirits. On Halloween, to keep ghosts away from their houses, people would place bowls of food outside their homes to appease the ghosts and prevent them from attempting to enter.

So for those of you that have been going for Halloween parties all this time and just think it’s about the costumes (although it basically is) this is what its actually about…

Here’s a few of your favourite celebrities in Halloween costumes.. You’re welcome J

- Riri in a half shell… Turtle Power!

- Only Kim can make Skeletons look sexy     

- Seth Rogen and Lauren Miller spotting one of the most iconic partnerships ever experienced in the gaming world

              

- Channing Tatum looking all cute and stuff..

- Jay and B looking like african royalty.. yup Beyonce was wearing Ankara

- Samurai Kendall, Taytay the Snowman and Ariana Grande

 

 

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“Homeland” Season 6 Trailer, Air Date, News and Updates

We promised to keep you in the loop and we’re keeping our promise. The sixth season of the political thriller, Homeland returns January 15, 2017 and according to Inquisitr, might be the best season yet. It’s hard to top the previous season but the Showtime series is coming back in full gear.

Moving away from Germany and what transpired, the new season is set in New York with Carrie moving to Brooklyn following the events in Berlin. Thankfully, Peter manages to survive and moves to New York to fully recover from the physical and psychological damages he suffered in Berlin… Albeit in a sense, a fresh start. The new Peter is a completely different man from the one we know.

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Carrie and Saul will continue to have a complicated relationship as Carrie will continue to work outside the CIA (She works for an organization that helps support Muslims who are being discriminated against) while Saul continues to play a more involved role in the CIA.

“There has been a split that they’ve been working on repairing over the course of the last couple of seasons to varying degrees of success. Saul has committed himself even more fully to the agency, and Carrie rejects some fundamental principles of it. That’s very difficult to reconcile, but they are so profoundly bonded. That’s something they’ll never be able to rid themselves of, but she’s matured to a very different place than he has.” Claire Daines on her relationship with Saul.

The sixth season will feature a presidential election with a female president played by Elizabeth Marvel. According to IndieWire, Alex Gansa revealed that the fictional president will not be modeled after any specific elected or running presidential nominee.

Similar to Berlin, Carrie will work with Saul as a rogue agent to help investigate terrorist activities.

“Peter Quinn will be in therapy during Homeland Season 6. One of the reasons Carrie choose to relocate to New York was to be with Quinn. Therefore, their relationship may develop and we are likely to see a lot more of the on/off couple. Quinn will be out of action, but he will also show the audience what happens to causalities of war both physically and psychologically. While Quinn and Carrie bond over their troubled past, it is also a source of conflict between the two government agents.” Inquisitr

Since we are back in the United States, the showrunners also revealed we are likely to run into old faces and characters from earlier seasons.


Photo: Variety

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Curtis Graham’s ‘Oloibiri’ Tolerably Captures The Plight Of Niger-Deltans

After ‘Black November’ a good number of the Nigerian audience should have inferred that we have seen the last of movies trying to push or send a message for the Niger Delta about the bad effects of crude oil discovery in their lands but writer, Samantha Iwowo had something coming.

‘Oloibiri’ tells the story of Boma (Richard M. Damijo), a first-class Geology graduate who feels angered and agonized for the damage that the foreign oil exploration companies are causing in their lands with impunity (He quits his big shot oil company job). Following a new exploration company (Fore Shore) coming to mine more oil from the land and the government paying no attention to their cries and sufferings, Boma decides to start a movement by becoming a militant. ‘Oloibiri’ is based on true events and captures the abandonment of the historical town of Oloibiri (the first town where oil was discovered in Nigeria in 1956). It captures what the lives of the people were (mostly happy and rustic) before and after the discovery of the ‘black gold’ in their land.

A DECENT MOVIE THAT ASKED A LOT OF QUESTIONS BUT FAILED TO PROVIDE ANY ANSWERS

The beauty of ‘Oloibiri’ emanates from the tour de force performances by the lead Nigerian cast. Olu Jacobs leads the pack as Elder Timipre, RMD and Ivie Okujaye following suit.

The acting from the European cast aside Mr. Powell (William R. Moses) was well below average. Iwowo’s screenplay was well researched and contained witty dialogue, but the story in itself felt like a rehash: one that could have been less hurriedly written (not sure if the editing led to this). ‘Oloibiri’ aimed to ask questions like; whose fault exactly is the problem the Niger-delta region is facing; is it the likes of Elder Timipre (Olu Jacobs) who fled the land abroad to avoid certain circumstances or out of grief? Or the village Elders who connive with these companies to reap where they do not sow? Or the companies who explore without considering the harmful effects on the lives of the people? These questions were asked but the answers were left to our imaginations. Characters were not properly developed mostly. The first thirty minutes dragged and the end was abrupt though conclusive.

The makeup was another cause for concern as the obviously painstakingly choreographed gunshot scenes were not given proper make up attention: not that it was poor but just not good enough. The escape at the closing scene was the most unconvincing part of the movie.

‘Oloibiri’ attempts to send a message we know, but in movies that have historic backgrounds like this one, great consideration is also given to the story and how it plays out, especially when the story is known too well. The evidently big budget and spot on locations and set was not enough to save this movie from Nollywood’s current plagues.


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Seyi Babatope’s ‘When Love Happens Again’ Entertains But Suffers From The ‘Idiot Plot’ Syndrome

Not every day we see sequels since Nollywood gained shape and started churning out better movies. Babatope’s new movie is a sequel to 2014 ROMCOM ‘When love Happens’ and follows the supposed ‘happily ever after’ relationship of Mo (Weruchia Opia) and her boyfriend Tobe (Udoka Onyeka). Mo starts her own event planning management and gets a meaty contract from a ‘Billionaire Playboy’ client Lade Adenuga (Folajimi Akinsola) that requires she travels over to Washington D.C to give an African touch to their big merger event. Surprisingly or rather expectedly, Tseju (Oreka Godis) tags along and follows her friend for this trip leaving Tobe behind in Lagos.

Babatope clearly had good intentions with his story and was rather driven with the success and persuasions from fans of the first instalment to do a second instalment (usually it is better to give fans an entirely different flick than doing a sequel). As usual, the script was written by a trio of writers Babatope Inclusive and had very well written dialogue and witty lines but that was that in the movie ─ witty lines. If the movie was shot in the early 2000’s or 90’s it may not have fallen into the category of ‘idiot plot’ movies but this is 2016 and in as much as a sequel was not an entirely bad idea; how about giving it more thought and develop the characters better?

‘Idiot plots’ are common in horror movies where one or all the characters are deliberately created to be stupid in order not to avoid the conflict or evil that they meet so they are stuck in the situation till the end, then the survivor gets an epiphany and then becomes the hero.

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‘When love happens again’ as a romantic comedy suffers this syndrome a lot; while it was not supposed to be slapstick. On Mo’s trip to D.C they are suspicions everywhere (from blogs mostly) that she and Lade are having a relationship, Tobe’s best friend Eyinna (Eyinna Nwigwe) incites this and keeps reminding his friend that ‘his babe has followed another man and he is here looking’ and this to him and oddly or of course? A series of ‘she is not answering my calls’, and other quite awkward scenarios make him take a three-day leave from work to travel over to D.C to refute the cheating rumours or surprise her? (We can’t point). Then Eyinna who is jobless also tags along and follows his friend; getting a free ticket from his cousin and they travel (Tobe empties his account to make this 3-day trip for love). The absurdities did not end there ─ it is unfortunately impossible to give a deep sigh in writing.

The acting was particularly impressive: Opia with her usual gusto reprised the role remarkably; Oreka and Marie Humbert’s characters were also impressively played. However, Udoka as the new Tobe was rather wooden. Time and again, Udoka proves he is better behind the camera than at the front: he’s short films can prove that. He easily comes out as tense in his performances as we’ve seen in ‘Wives on Strike’ and this one, He and Gideon Okeke are equally not great actors but for this character ─ Gideon owned it. The story would have done fine without Emeka’s character (Funny Bone Chibuna): he’s scenes were obviously to add humour which Eyinna had already done so naturally that an Emeka character being maybe an unfunny person would have been fine. No background story was given on what he was into and why he was doing the whole ‘Alhaji’ thing or why ‘phones and laptops, in parts were around in his house’ (Yahoo boy? definitely not). Emeka’s scene with online comedian (Chief Obi) was more of a distraction than humour.

The subplot where Jennifer’s (Dianna Yekini) character formerly played by Beverly Naya is reintroduced leaving Yekini to play three scenes was unnecessary as it did not move or add to the plot. The choice of locations was apt and daring (especially on the sidewalks of D.C) with lots of people and noise: this though affected the sound mix a couple of times.

Babatope is a seasoned filmmaker who audiences love but a sequel to a very good movie was not one of his best choices: filmmaking is all about making mistakes and fixing them so this movie should not be a major cause of worry because the first instalment and ‘Lunch Time Heroes’ have already cemented his name properly so audiences will definitely jump on his next project forgiving and forgetting he ever fell for the ‘sequel trap.’

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Burna Boy Was Interviewed On Noisey And The Internet Is Already Having Fun With His Responses

Burna Boy has had his NOISEY questionnaire session which according to him was littered with stupid questions. Burna who is a known Fela fanatic reacted to the question “Fela Kuti, Wizkid or Beenie Man” with a series of questions of his own. Trust me, no one saw that coming… Even me.

Burna’s response to that question surprisingly fits perfectly into a lot of situations and trust the internet to make you realise this.

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We Attended The 3 Thrones Concert And Left With A Loooooot Of Photos

The 3 Thrones Concert took place on the 23rd of October. The Game Of Thrones Themed event was headlined by Davido, Tiwa Savage, Phyno, and of course we were there. We really want to give a brief description of how the event went down but we can't... We however have photos from the event, make of them whatever you may.

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3 Natural Ways to Whiten Your Teeth

Most of us strive to always showcase a pearly-white smile to the world, but sadly, the cost of achieving that in the dentist’s chair can easily blow your budget to kingdom come.

The good news is that there are a lot of cheaper and gentler approaches that you can use to achieve a whiter set of teeth. In this post we’ll be showing you how to easily whiten your teeth at home, using products that might already be lurking in your kitchen cupboards!

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Number One - Brush With Baking Soda

Baking Soda (bicarbonate of soda) is a stock pantry item, but have you ever considered using it for more than just a meal prep ingredient? Baking soda can clean your teeth, sure, but it also has the ability to tackle stains that have built up on the teeth due to caffeine and smoking. The reason why baking soda can help clean up surface stains from the teeth is because it’s abrasive. Because baking soda’s crystals dissolve in water, it can penetrate deep into crevices that most other abrasives cannot reach.

Heads Up: Since baking soda is a powerful abrasive, it should only be used once or twice a month until you have the results you were aiming for. You can also mix it with Activated Charcoal for an even more effective teeth whitener.

 

How to Use: Simply mix a teaspoon of baking soda with enough water to form a smooth paste. Apply the paste to a toothbrush and then proceed to brush your teeth for about two minutes before rinsing and brushing a second time with regular toothpaste.

Number Two - Delight in Dairy Products

You might have thought of “drinking milk for strong teeth” as nothing more than an old wives tale. Sure, adults don’t actually absorb calcium from milk in order to promote the good health of their teeth, but dairy products may actually help whiten up your teeth. Dairy products are crammed full of lactic acid, and it has been found that this substance has the ability to restore teeth strength and might also be able to prevent tooth decay. Since the lactic acid strengthens the enamel on your teeth, it can actually help preserve the white glow of your teeth.

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Number Three - Try Oil Pulling

Oil pulling is recorded as an ancient Ayurvedic tooth-whitening method because it has been used to promote oral health and general dental hygiene over the ages. This method of whitening hasn’t been confirmed by clinical studies, but given its long history, you really have nothing to lose.

All you need to do to try this method is to swish a teaspoon of oil (choose between coconut oil and sesame oil) around in your mouth for about a minute each morning. Coconut oil has been reported to be the most effective when it comes to whitening power (since it contains lauric acid), but oil pulling, in general, can help rid your teeth of plaque and other grime, which makes teeth appear yellow.

 

While you can use those three methods to help brighten up the appearance of your teeth, you need to keep in mind that these are not instant fixes, and that they’ll take some time to show a remarkable difference. While you’re working towards achieving the results you’d like to see, there are a few things that you can start doing to ensure that your teeth don’t yellow any further.

 

How to Prevent Teeth from Turning Yellow

 

Chew Some Gum

We’re talking about sugar-free chewing gum here, not the sweet bubblegum that kids adore. By chewing gum on a regular basis, you can help reduce the amount of bacteria and acid inside of your mouth, which promotes better oral hygiene. The other way that chewing gum helps is by producing more saliva (or rather stimulating the production thereof). Saliva contains special enzymes that can help protect your teeth, and may also help prevent a yellow appearance.

 

Up Your Fruit & Veggie Intake

Fruits and vegetables aren’t only essential to a balanced immune system; they can actually help promote the good health of your teeth! Natural abrasives include crunchy foods like apples, carrots, and celery. These foods help to gently clean your teeth, and since they’re high in cellulose, they may aid in removing surface stains on the teeth, and prevent tooth decay.

 

And Don’t Forget The Strawberries!

Strawberries fall into a “superfood” category, and with good reason. Not only are they crammed full of good-for-you vitamins and minerals, they may actually restore the natural whiteness of your teeth and help prevent further yellowing. Since they contain malic acid, strawberries might be able to remove surface stains on the teeth and also help protect the teeth from plaque buildup.

 

Written for NG by Megan Thompson.

Megan is a DIY health & beauty addict. She’s committed to making her itsy-bitsy apartment chemical free and her diet as unprocessed as possible. You can find her work at Gold Mountain Beauty where she is responsible for the blog, Instagram and Pinterest.

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