Toke Makinwa. OAP. Tv Host. Vlogger. Event planner. All around beauty. Now an author...?
Last year news broke out that Toke's Husband, Maje Ayida had not only been having extra marital affairs with Anita Solomon but also put her in family way. The gossip swirled and the story soon became the trending topic; how a relationship expert became the butt of her own joke. People judged and called her out for spending too much time working instead of taking care of her man, while people were also sympathetic towards the celebrity and gave her their support.
Now Toke has released a tell all book, giving us all the juicy details of everything that went on behind closed doors. From her parents’ tragic death to how she managed to survive after Maje got another woman pregnant. I really have to say; this book is a must read! I was a bit reluctant to read it at first, but once I had the book in my hand, it was difficult to let go (I finished reading it in one night! Who had any idea she was such a terrific writer!) ghost writer? Maybe.
Here are 7 things you can learn from reading 'On Becoming' by Toke Makinwa
1. That Toke Makinwa is human just like you and I; Toke suffered a great loss at the tender age of 8. She lost both her parents to a fire caused by a leaking gas. She faced tragedy again when her husband impregnated his long-time mistress--Anita Solomon. Say what you will about the OAP but, she's a tough cookie to have made it this far, when many people would have crumbled under so much pressure.
2. That anyone can be a fool for love. In the book, Toke writes in detail about how Maje Ayida was in total hold of her mumu button and every time she convinced herself he wasn't for her, all he had to do was say a few words and she was back at his feet. It was truly sad to read how easy he manipulated her.
3. That through great pain anyone can emerge a victor; Like I said, miss Makinwa is one tough cookie. She not only rose from the ashes of what had seemed to be her defeat but she turned it around and reshaped it into something lucrative.
4. A man who lies and cheats before marriage will likely, lie and cheat after marriage; people seem to be under the false illusion that marriage fixes a broken relationship. Not at all. But don't take my word for it, ask Toke.
5. Sometimes, listen to your friends and family. They want the best for you. Toke's cousin constantly warned her about Maje but she refused to listen. Even Maje's sister warned her!
6. Never close your eyes to the warning signs. If you suspect something is up with your man or your woman there's a chance you are right. Instincts are very powerful. Don't brush them off.
7. Always keep God first. You'll see that in the book Toke talked a lot about God and her encounters with him, and how much God helped her get through all the hard times with Maje. Who knows where she would have been without the Almighty.
I recommend this one for anyone going through heartbreak, a bad divorce or break up (or for those of us that just want to get the gist of what happened). The pain will only last for a while, for there is hope for the future. Here are some wise words from the OAP herself:
'In the beginning, you'll be mad, you'll feel disrespected. Hatred is your fuel and Revenge becomes the mission. But as time progresses so will your numbness and then you'll realize the Hurt you feel has blessed you tremendously' - Toke